It seems like for every convention that's held, the behavior gets worse and worse. A product of the show going on for so long and fans getting more and more obsessed. I think, in fandom, there are groups who are more interested in the fanworks and those more interested in the actors. Counting myself in the first group, I like reading details of the boys' lives when I see them, but I don't actively search out anything beyond the scope of a project. I only know the bare minimum about Jared and Jensen. I'm more likely to read a new fic than a new interview and I don't have a tin hat. I think we have to remain in the fandom as some sort of balance, because if we pull away, all that's left are the ones who can't separate the boys from their characters or their fictional personas. We'll never be the ones applauding or encouraging that behavior and if we're not around to say "Hey! Not cool!"...well, I can only imagine how bad things might get. Plus, when it comes down to the nitty gritty, a lot of us are in the fandom for each other rather than Jared and Jensen, even though they're our inspiration.

And I do think Jared and Jensen know that they're not seeing the full picture of fandom from conventions. As long as there's been bands, genre shows, models, writers, actors, etc., there have always been crazy fans to go along with it. Girls who'll do anything to get backstage at concerts, sleeping with musicians, dressing up in costumes for conventions, collecting memorabilia...there's no end to what people will do when they love something, but I think there has to be a balance, even in a slash fandom. And you're right - nowadays I think actors or anyone famous knows that crazy comes with the territory.